It all started when...

One might wonder why I thought about writing a blog concerning what it means to be a gentleman. May I state right here that this was not really my idea at all. I do not hold myself up as an example for anyone, or as an authority on lifestyle, or as a proponent of any certain way to live. I am, however, a person who does believe strongly within my heart that there is an ideal of what a man can be. And I believe that it is in the best interest of the world and for a man’s own life, for each of us to strive to reach that goal. I am committed within myself to live, to the best of my ability, in a way that will bring out my talents for the good of others. I hold myself accountable for my own actions, and I hope to represent my faith in God and my family and my friends well. I suppose we could say, I hope to live as a Strong Gentleman. I have come to call this idea of strength combined with refinement as being a "ManlyGent,” because it is easier to say while embracing the belief that a gentleman is not weak or insipid, but he holds himself to a standard that embraces strength of body with strength of character: a man’s strength combined with a grasp of beauty, morality, and high ideals. 

So, what does it really mean to be a gentleman? It’s not about appearing presentable and appropriate in every circumstance, although this becomes an outcome. It is about the core, the heart and the mindset, an internal integrity that carries itself outward in action and personal care for the body, mind and spirit. Once, when I was a child, somebody very dear to me told me that a gentleman always makes people around him feel comfortable, no matter their social status or political and faith beliefs — no matter if you have to make yourself look smaller to let them shine. I have tried to live by this ideal ever since, even though sometimes it can be a most difficult thing to do.

Born in Milan, Italy, I began my studies of the classic arts as a child and found my inspirations from philosophy, history, literature, art and music. I developed my aesthetic from a love of beauty influenced by my classical studies: from the old Greek and Roman worlds and their mind, body and life philosophies combined with the Middle Ages' sense of chivalry and valor and the Renaissance sense of beauty and style. From a young age, I was exposed to the the importance of manners and proper dress for social and personal growth and influence. I was raised by parents and grandparents who valued education and culture and a dignified bearing. At the same time, I learned team sports and personal sports like swimming, tennis, and sailing, along with strength training and self-defense measures such as boxing.

I have always been interested in the link between how a person presents himself or herself to the world through clothing and manners and how they are within their beings, their souls. I was interested in dressing myself like the people I admired when just a child. I was exposed to the Italian fashion world during the first years of high school, and after that I worked for over 15 years in fashion, advertising and photography with some of the best people in the business throughout the world. My personal taste in dress has always been really eclectic but selective at the same time. I want my appearance to reflect my desire to be a gentleman who wants to leave the world a better place. I have always felt fulfillment by helping others more than anything else.

I am excited for the future. With life comes experience that leads to wisdom. Wisdom leads to a more reflective and purposeful life. Through this blog, I hope you will join me in this quest. 

Virtus et honor,

Marco Maida

P.S. English is my second language, so I wouldn’t be able to manage this website without the copy editing and immense help of Louise Norris.